Have you ever wondered if you were dealing with a narcissist? Chances are you have. Most of us have met someone that we suspected was a narcissist. But how to spot a narcissist? Here are 5 helpful tips:
1. They Drive The Conversation (About Themselves)
One of the most annoying parts about talking with a narcissist is that they will always find a way to make the conversation about them. This is because they think that they are so perfect and by telling you about them, it will make you like them better. Another good hint is that during their conversations, they will drop names of people or things they think will impress you.
It is important to know that a narcissist isn’t just someone who talks about their successes. A narcissist will also talk about their failures. Many narcissists will talk about their failures because it helps to make them appear human. However, when the narcissist tells a story that is negative, it will never be their fault.
2. Lay It On Like A Fairy Tale
A narcissist likes to play it big when they start out a relationship. This is how they build up trust. Any narcissist worth his weight has amazing people skills. Some would say that a narcissist would make the best con man, or that they even are the best con man.
If you are dealing with a narcissist (or the narcissist wants you) they will start the relationship off with a lot of flair. It will seem like you are the most important person in the world. Then as the story continues on they take less interest in you. You will be but a summer romance as some people would call it. Whether the person is a narcissist or not, you never want to get caught up in something such as this.
3. Blaming You Or Someone Else For Everything
In the mind of a narcissist, they are perfect and they could never do anything wrong. As such, they will never be held accountable for anything. That means that you (or someone else) is always at fault. They will go to great lengths in order to blame something on someone else.
But a narcissist doesn’t just blame other people. They are so good with words that they will convince whoever they are trying to blame that they are at fault. This is because a narcissist has surprisingly good people skills.
4. Appearance And Things Are Everything To Them
While it isn’t always a sure-fire way to spot a narcissist, a good place to start is to look for someone who appears vain. Narcissists spend a lot of time working on their appearance. They think that if they spend enough time working on it, that it will help them appear as perfect as they believe they are. Look out for those that are constantly adjusting their appearance, asking how they look, and/or looking in mirrors.
It isn’t just their appearance, though, it is the things they have. A narcissist wants everything they own to be perfect or desirable. This isn’t always true but it is a common trait that you might find. What you won’t find a narcissist do, though, is tell you that they got a deal. They want to show off what they have and the fact that they were able to get it.
5. A Narcissist Appears Damaged But Won’t Let You Help
Almost all narcissists have something wrong. They have suffered a trauma at some time in their life, have a disorder, or another problem. Whether this problem is immediately evident or you find out about it over time, there is always a problem in a narcissist’s life.
The narcissist will make you feel like it is our job to fix the problem but then won’t let you fix it when you try. Part of being a narcissist is that they are too self-absorbed to allow help. Another part of being a narcissist is thinking that they are perfect. There could never be anything wrong with them.
Why would you want to use the tips you have just read? To spot a narcissist of course. Being in a relationship with a narcissist is not healthy. Instead, you want to be in a relationship with a natural, healthy person. By using these 5 helpful tips, you can manage to stay away from people who will put you down, and instead choose those who uplift you so that you can live happily and free.